The other day my friend, who is usually the most composed individual out of any of my group of friends, calls me breathlessly on the phone. FRIEND: Daphne, OMG! Do you remember my guy friend, Mr. 24?ME: The guy you call 24 because he drank 24 shots in one sitting?FRIEND: Yeah! You know how I told you we became really good friends? Well, I was talking to him today and you’ll never guess what happened?ME: Did he drink 25 shots while on the phone with you and now you call him Mr. 25?FRIEND: Haha. No! But, we were just talking about random stuff and all of a sudden, he professes his love for me! He says he has always cared about me from the very beginning and he just tried to suppress his feelings because I have a boyfriend. Oh, I feel so odd now! This is the last thing I wanted to hear! Why does this have to happen? Maybe my other friend is right, men and women can’t ever really be friends!Hold it right there!Can men and women really not be friends? I have gotten the whole, "Well, the real reason I became friends with you first is because I thought I would have a bigger chance with you" bit from a supposed guy friend before. In fact, Matthew and I were friends before we started dating.Yet, it can’t always be the case can it? One of my bestest friends now is a guy. And ironically enough, one of Matthew’s best friends is a girl! I can’t imagine myself dating my best friend. He’s more like a brother and I know Matthew feels the same way about his friend. However, my friend with whom I had the conversation with above seems to sense the danger that lies in being friends with the opposite sex. The only conclusion I can come to on this subject is that it is different in every case, but the underlying cause that any of us do become friends, be it with a male or female, is that there is something that attracts us to that individual (physical or not). The more we get to know each other, however, and if we realize that we fit each other well (like Matthew and I), that friendship eventually becomes something more. As for the rest, the more you get to know them, the more you discover that you like hanging out with them, talking to them, sharing thoughts and feelings with them, but you could never be romantically involved with them and they become your close friends. That, in my opinion, is how the friendship world turns. As for my friend, they’re still trying to salvage the friendship they had before the revelation. We’ll see if it lasts.————————————————————————–CAN MEN AND WOMEN REALLY BE FRIENDS AND STAY AS THAT? |
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